When your child talks about the birthmother….

Presuming that you have been talking to your child about her adoption and birth mother, what happens when all of a sudden your child asks you a question about her birth mother out of a blue? Well…actually nothing happens. World is not crumbling under your feet so don't panic. This is what happened to our family today.

We were in the bed; I was with my computer and my wife with the kids. Older one was lying next to me (with her thumb in the mouth) and out of a blue made a statement “Daddy I am brown, probably my birth mom is brown”!!

“Probably honey, and you know something? She must be very pretty too, because you’re so pretty” said I.

“I know, I know” responded Lydia.

Then she wanted to know about my skin tone and compared it to my parents. We had a good laugh about Thatha’s dark skin (Dad’s dad) and learnt that it takes a Mom and a Dad to make a baby.

My wife and I decided to leave it there for now as she didn't ask any more questions. We know that she will have more questions and it is a joy for us to answer her questions.

Taking life one day at time.