Did you ever have an incident where a stranger who may have heard about your family’s adoption story through someone comes up to ask you unnecessary questions? You’re not alone. People want to know the reasoning behind our decision to adopt a child (“You couldn’t have children of your own” for example) to caste of the child.
Sometimes such questions from strangers could hurt the feelings of our children so what do we need to do about it? Do we simply ignore or pick a fight? I suggest neither. Always remember that most of the people ask you these questions out of curiosity but no specific agenda. When you decide to confront this curious individual, this fact must remain active with in you at all times.
Make sure that your children are not around you or at least not at an audible distance. Don’t make it appear like it is an issue that you don’t want your children to be part of but something that adults needs to discuss. Be calm and only answer to the question. You must explain your answers only at the time of your choice.
Sometimes where the contrasting features (such as in inter-racial adoptions) are obvious, even the by standers may becomes curious and such kind of people simply need to be ignored or must be given a fitting reply. If you’re into promoting the message of adoption actively, don’t lose such opportunities to let people know how wonderful adoption is and how it had changed your life.
Whatever you may choose to do, always be careful about your children and their emotions because it is they whom you’re protecting and not the stranger.