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Blackmailing: Many times there are middlemen involved in private adoptions. They are sometimes well versed with adoption laws and may make you believe that what you’re doing is legal. After you take the child home, they could show up at your door for money to blackmail you.
Cannot be open about it: Since there is no legal evidence in a private adoption, there’s a constant fear about who is going to report to the authorities. Because of this, family also cannot be open with the adopted child. Being open about adoption with the adopted child is very important and denying a child such an opportunity could amount to betrayal of their trust in you.
Birth certificate: No legal basis also makes it impossible to obtain a legal birth certificate. Not having a birth certificate could present problems at school admissions, and obtaining a passport etc.
Living a fearful life: Because of all the reasons quoted above, a family will be forced to live a life that’s full of fear about when/ how the child would find out about the story of their adoption through a third person. All this would cause a sincere and loving family to break down.
Bottom line is this: In the best interest of your own child’s future, and the family’s well being, one should avoid resorting to private adoptions because it has obvious dangers and heartaches.