In any so-called modern society, divorce has come to be known as a ‘necessity’ to many couples. I am not writing this to tell you how to/ how not to get divorced but to think about the consequences of our actions on our children, especially adopted children.
In any family, separation through divorce got to be painful on everyone involved especially children if they are close to both the parents. In an adoptive family it got to be even more harder when the child begins to realize the gravity of his/ her past. Our adoptive children are being traumatized once before for no mistake theirs (by their bio family) and to see them go through it again (by an adoptive family) got to be extremely traumatic.
One might wonder if the visitations and child support are not adequate enough to enable the child to understand that we are committed to their welfare? I know they are material comforts that one is trying to provide for the WELFARE but they are not the same in enabling a child to learn tolerance, respect, and love that must exist to make a family.
I know of an adoptive family that went their separate ways and got remarried. Each one had biological children there after. I always wonder what’s going through that adopted child’s mind? Does the child feel like “I was adopted when they didn’t have children but each of them have biological children now, am I less of an importance”?
What are your thoughts on this topic? It is very tricky to implicitly suggest that adoptive families shouldn’t explore divorce at all (where it is lawfully permitted) but what about the children? I don’t know what to make of it. Do you know of anyone that had set an example for many to follow on this precise topic? Please do share your thoughts. I suggest you don’t use anyone’s names even if they are celebrities. If you don’t want to be identified, feel free to use the anonymous option.
Ruby
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