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There are approximately 18000 parents registered with CARA, while the number of children in the Government's adoption pool is less 1800.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Can I give my baby up for adoption? (Q and A)

Is it the best thing to be giving your baby up for adoption if you can afford to raise her financially? Please help me out my baby for adoption. He is 1week now and I am a single mom who can’t afford for the baby s welfare. Please help me.

My heart goes to the position that you're in to make the most difficult decision that you have to make. I do not know any details in your situation such as your age, family, country or any other details so I'll reply in a general way. My reply must be viewed in its total context and not be taken out of context by bits and pieces. Any decision that you make must be made in the best interest of the child and that is to ensure that your child grows socially, intellectually, morally, physically and emotionally.

As a biological mother, kindly do consider every option at your disposal to find yourself some help so that you can keep the child. Consider the help of your family. While you work, if your child can be cared for by your family for few hours a day then you would be able to provide for the child's needs.

Second, consider visiting some social organizations such as places of worship or philanthropic organizations that might consider helping you monetarily or by giving you a job to sustain yourself so that you can keep and care for the baby.

Next consider giving the child in for foster care where you give the child to a caring family on a temporary basis while you establish to sustain yourself. Please find out all the you can to follow the law of the land and have clearer understanding of how it is done (in your country wherever you're) so that you have strong evidences to claim your child back as when you're ready to take the child home.

Lastly you can consider giving the child in for adoption but only after you answer your conscience in a clear way that you have given all that you have and put in all the efforts to keep the baby and provide for the child. Even in adoption, there are options such as 'open adoption' where your child grows in someone else's house but you could still play a role in that child's life. Remember, no matter what, you'll always remain a mother to this child.

God Bless

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