Don't consider adoption a substandard option

Part # 3

Don’t consider adoption as a substandard option: Recently I met a childhood friend of mine after a long time and during our conversation when we came to talk about our families, he said "we have no children, but we have adopted a child".  So, I asked him if he doesn't consider an adopted child as his child?  He replied “He’s only adopted”.

This experience made me believe that there are some who do adopt and think that’s something that they are forced to live with for they not able to have a biological child. I respectfully disagree with those who think that adoption is a substandard option. There’s nothing substandard about the life that you choose to bring home to call yourself a “Daddy” or “Mommy”. May be it is the last option for many but not a substandard option.

You might get away with this kind of thinking only for so long. When your child begin to understand and comprehend your thinking, he/she will begin to think less worth of themselves than they truly are. Be assured that your child with such a kind of behavior will have long-term consequences.

It is better for individuals to remain without children than to adopt and to put their children through this kind of subtle torture. Adoption is an alternative option to expand a family but certainly not a substandard option.