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There are approximately 18000 parents registered with CARA, while the number of children in the Government's adoption pool is less 1800.

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

5 Don'ts of adoption

Part # 2
Don’t be in a hurry to adopt: Majority of the families adopt for the reason of infertility. For some, there are different kinds of pressures (such as social) to become parents sooner than later. So couples go to unrealistic lengths to fulfill their dream of becoming parents quickly without realizing the dangers behind it.

First and foremost you want to be absolutely certain that your spouse is on the same path of thinking as you’re. If not, then you have a major problem to resolve first than to consider adopting. Then come both of  your families. Although it is you and your spouse’s decision to adopt, the closest social support system one can expect to find is our families and we need them.

Bringing a child home through adoption is a lifetime commitment with many twists and turns such as disclosing the truth about adoption, birth family search, and post adoption depression etc. Adoption needs thorough preparation to cope with it. There have been cases of families where they felt that they made a mistake after completing adoption.

With occasional adoption scandals breaking out, it is very important that you're are aware of the process of adoption.  Learn the red flags in the process and mandatory questions you must ask etc.  You need to talk to those who have gone before you to learn about nuances of adoption. Even after your exhaustive homework to tread this path, sometimes you’ll find yourself in a position that you don’t want to be in. You must be prepared with contingency plans.

Point in short, adoption (like biological birth) is a time intensive procedure and there’s no short cut to it. You must accept, and prepare before you say YES.

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