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Tuesday, November 20, 2007

5 Don'ts of adoption

Part # 2

Don’t be in a hurry to adopt: Majority of the families adopt for the reason of infertility. For some there are different kinds of pressures (such as social) to become parents sooner than later. So couples go to unrealistic lengths to fulfill their dream of becoming parents quickly without realizing the dangers behind it.

First and foremost you want to be absolutely certain that your spouse is on the same path of thinking as you’re. If not, then you have a major problem to resolve first than to consider adopting. Then come both your families. Although it is you and your spouse’s decision to adopt, the closest social support system one can expect to find is our families and we need them.

Bringing a child home through adoption is a lifetime commitment with many twists and turns such as disclosing the truth about adoption, birth family search, and post adoption depression etc. Adoption needs thorough preparation to cope with it. There have been cases of families where they felt that they made a mistake after completing adoption.

With the adoption scandals breaking out on regular intervals, it is very important that you pick the ethical adoption agency, which is like finding a needle in the haystack without owner’s manual. You need to talk to those who have gone before you, interview the agency, and compare your findings with other similar agencies etc. Even after your exhaustive homework to tread this path, sometimes you’ll find yourself in a position that you don’t want to be in. You must be prepared with contingency plans.

Point in short, adoption (like biological birth) is a time intensive procedure and there’s no short cut to it. You must accept, and prepare before you say YES.

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