I am beginning my adoption journey and would it be appropriate to enroll myself in more than one adoption agency simultaneously?
As much as I appreciate your honesty in asking this question openly, it's a bad idea in terms of being unfair to the adoption agency. I can assure you without a doubt that if the adoption agency comes to know this (or you told them upfront), they will refuse to work with you because they see you as someone not trustworthy. If you don't tell them, you're being unfair. It's a catch 22 isn't it?
Well....you're trying to cut short the long wait and as far as I know it is not prohibited by CARA rules. You're not only being unfair to the adoption agency but also to the prospective adoptive families whose application could have been processed had you not registered with that particular agency.
I suggest you do the following:
Right agency: Search for the right agency that you can work with. When I referred to 'Right Agency' what I mean is that you're comfortable knowing about this agency from those that have adopted before you from this particular agency. Once you find such an agency, stick with it.
Become empowered: Your insecurity to register with two agencies stems from two reasons. One being to speed up the process and the other being "What if". What if this doesn't work, at least there's another to work with. You must become empowered with adequate amount of knowledge about the adoption process so that you can look for the red flags and can ask the right questions before you register with an adoption agency.
Think out of the box: If your idea of registering with two agencies is only to speed up the process and doesn't have particular preferences on the child, then I suggest that you think 'out of the box'. Think adopting an older child, child with special needs and child with no gender preferences. When the agency sees your right priorities, they'll ask you to cut the line and move to the front.
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