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Saturday, July 07, 2007

Adopting When You Have Bio Kids

Adoption is a wonderful way to grow your family, even when you already have bio children. If you do choose to adopt, be sure that you always let the adopted children and your bio children know that they are loved equally and that they are all very special to you. Work to foster love between them so they are all special to each other too.

It is a good idea when you decide to adopt to talk to your bio children about it in advance and throughout the process just as you would if you were having another bio baby. Of course you would be excited about a new child coming to your home that it would most likely be hard not to talk about it to them. Just don't overdo it as it may make your other children feel less loved.
Since the adoption process takes much longer than a pregnancy takes, you will have even more opportunity for your kids to get used to the idea of having a new sibling around. Hopefully they will be excited about it too. If they have any concerns arise about a new addition to the family you can talk about it now before the child has arrived.

You may want to consider adopting in birth order so your current kids don't feel pushed out of their family position by an older child, therefore possibly resenting the child coming to your family. However there are many families who do adopt out of birth order and it seems to work fine for them. Your kids may enjoy having that older brother or sister that they always wished they had or even another child there own age. You will have to see what works best for your family.

When you do get your new child home you may go around feeling like you have brain mush for awhile, you may just feel so in love with this new one, or perhaps feel so amazed that this new one is now finally in your life and has joined your family, that you also love so much. You will have to find ways to spend time with your current children and also your new child. This and other things could cause you to also feel some post adoption depression, just like post partum depression. If you do, you will be happy to know that others have gone through this and you are not alone, there is help out there. Someone has even written a book on this subject. Whatever it is that you would feel, may you blessed by adoption.

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